Domestic violence may work both ways but there’s no doubt that the statistics show it is women and children who are usually on the receiving end. What does drive a man to be violent within a relationship. . Cathy Bettman is a relationships counsellor and she did her PHD on that topic, questioning men from all walks of life . After publishing her work as an academic thesis she decided that her findings should reach a wider audience. She turned them into a novel, For All Our Sakes . Cathy says one of the problems is the narrow definition of domestic violence means that some men can’t even recognise their own behaviour.

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